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    100% Method for Meeting up with Girls

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    Part 1 - Why Plans Result in Cold Feet.


    The inherent problem with planned events, is that during the period leading up to the event, there will be 'low' periods where future events are seen in a 'negative light' of worry or lack of enthusiasm. (Just think about a time when you were feeling worried, tired or just bored.) During such times, negative thoughts and worries tend to ACCUMULATE in regard to upcoming events. With longer time span, more such 'lows' will occur, potentially allowing multiple layers of negativity to accumulate. End result is often total loss of interest or even AVERSION.

    In short, planning in advance will make any previous doubts FESTER & AMPLIFY, resulting in COLD FEET.

    Conclusion: NEVER plan a first meet-up in advance.



    Part 2 - How to Make Unplanned Meet-ups Happen.

    Effortless way:
    -Avoid communicating entirely, until next friday/saturday night.
    -Then text something like "Hi Im at bar X! You?"

    Fast way:
    -Converse (text or phone-call) with girl WITHOUT hinting for a meet. Just flirt! No asking about what she doing or what her plans are.
    -The moment SHE HINTS for a meet, suggest meeting up 'right now'.
    -Example:

    ij: "Heeey tiger u awake? Friday was fuun " (typically 11pm'ish on a sunday)

    girl: "Yes? lol your name is sexyjiji?!?"

    ij: "What?? you typo on your cell?? My name is ijjjji. Nice to meet you!"

    girl: blablabla

    ij: blabla (insert playfully busting her balls!!)

    girl: flirty blabla. "Im watching series X. What u doing?"

    ij: X is nice? I could watch with you but starving.. U have food?



    (This method is much more effort, because sometimes you have to tease girls for days before they 'crack' like this. But it always happens sooner or later in my experience!)


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    (Digression: The fallacy of reverse engineering is evident for this subject. 'Good' (popular) guys report that they never have problems when planning a meeting. (Since the girl had NO DOUBT to begin with.) Consequently, they tend to SPAM the forums with the BAD ADVICE of scheduling meets, leading to an endless stream of frustrated posts from newbies who always get last minute cancel from girls. On average there are 2 new topics like this every week. Every time the same useless advice given. Possibly making this the most deeply rooted misunderstanding in all of seduction.)

    (Scheduling meetups can actually be useful for weeding out lukewarm girls, in a situation where you have many girls lined up.. e.g. you could schedule 10 girls from online on the same day, and hope that 1 or 2 dont flake.. Be warned though: the reduction of interest still plays a role, so the girl could be lukewarm when you meet her, leaving you with more 'uphill struggle', compared to a spontaneous meeting..)

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    Finally, you made a post about this!

    You donīt need to explain this everyday to a new guy anymore

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    Quote Originally Posted by unknown View Post
    Finally, you made a post about this!

    You donīt need to explain this everyday to a new guy anymore
    And it's going into the Player Guide, so it'll be immortalized forever

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    Thanks ijjji. With method 1, do you just keep trying other days if no reply? For method 2 - I hate texting all the time but maybe there is no other way. I usually try to seed the day 2 in the initial meet convo and then schedule on the spot but still so many flakes (daygame).

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    Thanks this is really helpful

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    Great post, ij.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ijjjji View Post
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    Part 2 - How to Make Unplanned Meet-ups Happen.


    Fast way:
    -Converse (text or phone-call) with girl WITHOUT hinting for a meet. Just flirt! No asking about what she doing or what her plans are.
    -The moment SHE HINTS for a meet, suggest meeting up 'right now'.
    -Example:

    ij: "Heeey tiger u awake? Friday was fuun " (typically 11pm'ish on a sunday)

    girl: "Yes? lol your name is sexyjiji?!?"

    ij: "What?? you typo on your cell?? My name is ijjjji. Nice to meet you!"

    girl: blablabla

    ij: blabla (insert playfully busting her balls!!)

    girl: flirty blabla. "Im watching series X. What u doing?"

    ij: X is nice? I could watch with you but starving.. U have food?



    (This method is much more effort, because sometimes you have to tease girls for days before they 'crack' like this. But it always happens sooner or later in my experience!)
    So much THIS.

    Additionally, you can increase your chance of baiting girls into showing interest by cultivating a couple habits:

    1. minimize negative talk or chitchat about boring daily routines

    NO: "yeah, gotta go into service center. i dropped my laptop and broke my screen. totally sucks!"
    YES: "i get to talk to computer nerds tomorrow. may need u to translate" or skip altogether.


    NO: "well i have to work until 8 tmrw, and then i have a band practice on wed. how's Thurs?"
    YES: "thurs works best for me. u?"



    2. talk positively about only activities or things that she is likely to be interested in, so you can congruently invite her along

    NO: "i have hockey practice and then the guys usually like to go for drinks..."
    NO: "huge fight last week at my regular dive bar..."

    YES: "going to go see my friend perform at this awesome open mic"
    YES: "cool new sake bar just opened. waitresses in kimonos and drunk businessmen. it's on."


    3. IME, mentioning specific food items, drinks and detailed activities works best for effective triggers, like advertising with pictures instead of just words

    NO: "bla bla going drinking"
    YES: "i'm in a tequila phase. i said it."


    NO: "bla bla eat food"
    YES: "the kind of place that makes the guacamole right in front of you. who knew there were so many ingredients in fucking guacamole?"

    NO: "live music bla bla"
    YES: "kickass U2 cover band whose drummer i may or may not have a guy crush on"



    As Ijjjji mentions, the key is to POUNCE the moment she expresses interest. This also means that you should not be baiting her with any activity that you would not invite her to. This can result in her expressing interest in, say, going disco bowling, but then being disappointed because the event only happens once a month. A false positive, creating negative rejection vibes.

    tl/dr: talk only about awesome things in some detail to bait her into wanting to tag along

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    Quote Originally Posted by Daigoro View Post

    1. minimize negative talk or chitchat about boring daily routines

    NO: "well i have to work until 8 tmrw, and then i have a band practice on wed. how's Thurs?"
    YES: "thurs works best for me. u?"
    I like all the rest of your advice except this ^. I actually think the first part is better as it shows you're in a band! And work, that's what cool people do. The second one is cool in a nonchalant way, but doesn't show the cool stuff you do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SHB View Post
    I like all the rest of your advice except this ^. I actually think the first part is better as it shows you're in a band! And work, that's what cool people do. The second one is cool in a nonchalant way, but doesn't show the cool stuff you do.
    First rule of texting is the same as the first rule of writing. Show, don't tell. So don't mention it and then show up carrying a guitar bag. Much stronger.
    We're here. The rest is bullshit.

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    I've been waiting for this!

    It's true, yesterday afternoon I texted my buddy if he wanted to go to a club, but by 10pm I was exhausted and didn't feel like going. Better to play it by ear sometimes.

    So what do you consider a "hint" at meeting up, any question she asks you?

    Could you post some more examples please! specifically of her hinting and you capitalizing on it.
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