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    Rough sex

    Apologies for the overly dramatic title.
    My question is, why do some women, me included, like really rough sex? As in what is the psychology behind it?

    I've met a guy and he almost strangles me and hits me during sex but in a strange sort of way I really enjoy it, is that bad?

    i think I am obsessed with this guy, I don't know if I'm using the term right but I may have Oneitis

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    Its like you getting aggressive while have sex, and the pleasure makes feel good even after hitting

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    I think it has to do with the fact that it feels like the guy is letting go emotionally and totally into you
    and you react to that with letting go as well?

    That definitely can make for better sex I think.


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    Quote Originally Posted by letsgetlost View Post
    Apologies for the overly dramatic title.
    My question is, why do some women, me included, like really rough sex? As in what is the psychology behind it?

    I've met a guy and he almost strangles me and hits me during sex but in a strange sort of way I really enjoy it, is that bad?

    i think I am obsessed with this guy, I don't know if I'm using the term right but I may have Oneitis
    Its more engaging

    Some girls really like aggression
    Most girls like rough
    So long as they feel they can trust the dude with it of course, and it doesn't go some weird blow up doll direction (which will take the connect you feel and turn it into just as strong of a disconnect)

    For me, I ask about what girls like, and there are loads of things I consider totally normal
    And rough sex is totally easy peasy
    And I'm glad you enjoy it

    Definately don't feel uncomfortable about having stuff you like
    Its good

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    Quote Originally Posted by letsgetlost View Post
    Apologies for the overly dramatic title.
    My question is, why do some women, me included, like really rough sex? As in what is the psychology behind it?

    I've met a guy and he almost strangles me and hits me during sex but in a strange sort of way I really enjoy it, is that bad?

    i think I am obsessed with this guy, I don't know if I'm using the term right but I may have Oneitis
    Evolutionary speaking, a huge part of our population is the result of rape. Genghis Khan wasn't a charmer, he was a brutal and systematic raper.

    Women who respond well to rape are more likely to reproduce because they have been raped through history. This is, more than anything else, a facet of how evolution works. If you reproduce, you stay here. If you don't your lineage dies.

    Dominance in pickup is about tapping into these things. You can choose to ignore this fact to make it more "romantic".

    Engaging in sex that is physically violent will be more pleasing to you because you are built that way from evolution. Cue "rough sex".

    tl;dr For a woman, wanting to be fucked (almost semi against her will) is a normal thing. There is nothing wrong with you. You lube up when guys are brutal and "have their way with you".

    I am not advocating rape in any way or form. I am just telling you how it is. Science shit.

    In my personal experience:


    • Girls will tell you to "have your way with me". Happened more times than I care to count.
    • Girls will tell you to "Be rougher". This doesn't mean you have to have a 50 inch penis and physically hurt them, it usually means you have to "manhandle" them a little.
    • They will tell you "I need you to pull my hair".
    • They will tell you straight out "I need you to strangle me a little".



    I actually have it as a main point in my strategy guide that women actually like being used. Not after, but during. It allows you to set up (and justify) a bunch of stuff.

    Me (on Tinder): Hi, what are you doing?
    Her: Just reading 50 Shades of Grey, what about you?
    Me: Well, you're getting banged hard tonight.

    This is any conversation with any girl ever, only condensed.

    Personally, I do screening game.
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    Quote Originally Posted by COCPORN View Post
    ...
    Me (on Tinder): Hi, what are you doing?
    Her: Just reading 50 Shades of Grey, what about you?
    Me: Well, you're getting banged hard tonight.

    This is any conversation with any girl ever, only condensed.

    ...
    LOL!
    Here is another version:
    ....
    Her: Ooops, sorry.
    Me: you're not sorry yet, missy.
    Her: What do you mean
    Me: Your punishment will be swift, rough, and... deeply pleasurable.
    Her: If I'm lucky!(Direct.)
    OR
    Her: Reeeaaaally?!? (Shit testy)
    Me: blah, blah (change subject, long game) blah, blah
    Her: (Growing impatient, hopeful, worried the window may pass) So, how about that swift punishment you promised?

    Don't let any sign of submission go unpunished. Her submissiveness will resonate to your dominance, listen for it and reward with more dominance. it's a beautiful dance when both partners know what they are doing.
    Technique note: Pulling hair and light choking have worked less well for me than arms pinning or firmly guiding their hips against my body. Maybe I'm doing the choking wrong.(???)

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    ... the posts before remind me of one of my own (unproven (yet)) theories:

    Girls orgasms aid conception
    When raped they don't orgasm but they just have sex, get wet etc.

    That way the chance that they conceive by those guys is lower
    This would be beneficial because this way they could "pick" a better "parent" for their kids..
    (They would orgasm stronger from sex with better future daddies
    and not with guys who won't stick around (e.g. rapists))

    therefor they would still enjoy dominance by a guy,
    but not really enjoy it as strongly as an emotional bond with a partner.

    Just like a guy is more likely to pairbond/get emotionally involved with a "better" matching partner for the best possible background for offspring (e.g. lower testosteron levels when guys pairbond and less attraction for other possible partners and higher attraction for pairbonded partner)

    This all matches with the following:
    Daddy's supportiveness matters for children's language, cognitive, and language development across ages and emotional regulation at 24 months

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    Quote Originally Posted by COCPORN View Post
    If you reproduce, you stay here. If you don't your lineage dies.
    It wouldn't be that hard to find someone to reproduce with one would think. It would be harder to find someone who is worthy of having children with.

    Dominance in pickup is about tapping into these things. You can choose to ignore this fact to make it more "romantic".
    I simply can't help but disagree here...

    Engaging in sex that is physically violent will be more pleasing to you because you are built that way from evolution. Cue "rough sex".
    I have had rough sex that was 100000 times less pleasurable to me than intense vanilla sex.

    It can be true for some girls though, but then you would have to take into account that not everyone has the same ancestors, and for some rough sex could have been the beneficial way of reproduction for their ancestors. And for others not.

    Science shit.
    Link it.

    Girls will tell you to "have your way with me". Happened more times than I care to count.
    I only do this with short-term guys, or when I don't trust them, actually.
    But again.. personal preferences.

    Girls will tell you to "Be rougher"
    Have you never had a girl tell you to go slower? Or go more gentle?
    Sounds biasing to focus on this kind of reactions and not other kind of reactions...

    I actually have it as a main point in my strategy guide that women actually like being used. Not after, but during. It allows you to set up (and justify) a bunch of stuff.
    Nothing against you, and I believe the girls you find may be like this truly..
    Don't think it's the golden solution though.

    Maybe it's just because of the amount of guys i have been with though...
    I personally hate it when I go see a guy go into that "I should use her"

    Personally, I do screening game.
    can this be influencing the preferences the girls you have been with exhibit?

    I think the main mistake people make when talking about females and males as gatekeepers..
    females are not the gatekeepers to sex, they are the gatekeepers to their own orgasms and therefor to children...

    Sex can lead to chilldren, but more likely... orgasm can truly go closer to be equal to children.


    I mean.. if they truly were gatekeepers to sex, where the hell does rape fit in?
    and if truly the goal was to get raped and then get kids.. why the hell would there be this whole dance of pairbonding and other shit?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kit View Post
    It wouldn't be that hard to find someone to reproduce with one would think. It would be harder to find someone who is worthy of having children with.


    I simply can't help but disagree here...


    I have had rough sex that was 100000 times less pleasurable to me than intense vanilla sex.

    It can be true for some girls though, but then you would have to take into account that not everyone has the same ancestors, and for some rough sex could have been the beneficial way of reproduction for their ancestors. And for others not.


    Link it.


    I only do this with short-term guys, or when I don't trust them, actually.
    But again.. personal preferences.


    Have you never had a girl tell you to go slower? Or go more gentle?
    Sounds biasing to focus on this kind of reactions and not other kind of reactions...


    Nothing against you, and I believe the girls you find may be like this truly..
    Don't think it's the golden solution though.

    Maybe it's just because of the amount of guys i have been with though...
    I personally hate it when I go see a guy go into that "I should use her"


    can this be influencing the preferences the girls you have been with exhibit?

    I think the main mistake people make when talking about females and males as gatekeepers..
    females are not the gatekeepers to sex, they are the gatekeepers to their own orgasms and therefor to children...

    Sex can lead to chilldren, but more likely... orgasm can truly go closer to be equal to children.


    I mean.. if they truly were gatekeepers to sex, where the hell does rape fit in?
    and if truly the goal was to get raped and then get kids.. why the hell would there be this whole dance of pairbonding and other shit?
    Did you know that the cuttlefish literally can select which male she mates with and cannot be raped
    They typically choose the cleverest cuttlefish, not the most bloviating ones

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GpRtyvs46es
    20 mins in

    Strength displays are often not as powerful as displays of daring

    So, the "rough" aspect isn't so much dominance as it is, the impressive ability of negotiating risks

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    Some weird comments here...

    In my little experience and from what women have told me there are at least two very different cases in which women like rough sex.

    Case 1:

    The woman has established deep trust with someone and knows she can let go of all her defenses completely. Going rougher and rougher can be something like a test of "can I really trust him?". They will over time disable all their defenses still in place that prevents them from reaching a state of psychical non-existence or non-ego, however you want to call it. When you reach the end of this process, as a woman you can either a) let a man control you completely which can be a very pleasurable thing or even b) have the man enter the very same state, reaching a double-flow-trance state together. Those don't have to be rough at all, but if you enter that flow-state, there's a chance of automatic in-between-roughness happening. I've noticed that when I enter this state together with my gf, we are usually drifting through all kinds of emotions quite naturally. Trying it out in a rather controlled state first with good responses might be a pleasurable experience in its own right.

    Case 2:

    Especially if there is no real connection with someone, heightening the intensity of sensory input might help to get off easier, simple as that. So if you're having a ONS with someone and you don't like him enough to trust him 100% but want to get off with him, going rough just might push you over the edge.

    Jester

    P.S.: Rape sucks and can destroy lives. Ask any victim. Seriously, don't rationalize this shit please O_o
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