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    Help me make this guy cum....lol

    Okay, so we've had sex 4 times and I've NEVER managed to make this guy cum, not through vaginal, oral or anal sex, and we've done all of the above. Every time we have had sex has been between 5 and 8 hours long and he stays hard, like, the whole time but doesn't cum.

    He acts like this is an ongoing "problem" for him. He has told me that no woman has ever made him cum through a blowjob, but I've done that for a handful of guys who said the same thing. There were a couple that I never managed to get off orally but they still came through regular sex.

    I have given him blowjobs that lasted over an hour to no avail, and like tried everything I can think of to do with hands and mouth. He will keep SAYING he is going to cum but then doesn't. I've tried keeping at the same pace and just ignoring it when he says that, tried speeding it up, tried gripping harder. I haven't tried slowing down?

    I made a comment to him last night that he could probably do it in under two minutes himself and he said no, he actually doesn't jack off because he'd "get carpal tunnel". What is he doing?? He has to cum sometimes doesn't he?? Also, he is married (although he doesn't know I know that) so I wonder if guilt could be coming (hee) into play here? Obviously he has cum at least once with his wife before because they have a child that is like 9 yrs old. No, the wife is not prettier than me. She's flat chested and super skinny with buck teeth. BD saw a picture of her and immediately called her "ugly". While that may be kind of harsh, she's definitely not a 10.

    Last night he surprised me with a toy that he used on me during sex and I'm sure he could feel the vibrations too but that didn't make him cum either (though I came a lot, haha). He obviously cares a LOT about making me cum, and he's very good at it. He makes it very clear he enjoys getting ME off, but I wonder if he's having an issue being too unselfish?

    I suspect he's not getting into the right headspace to relax too. Personality wise he's kind of a control freak, at least in his job. So that might have something to do with it...?

    If it was a porn issue he would have to be jacking off right? Or maybe he is using something artificial? Some kind of toy for men? Fleshlight? What do you think and what can I do?

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    sometimes long sex can numb your dick... try this:

    Play with his nipples...

    blow him in the doggy style position and tell him story while you are blowing him of a time you fucked 2 guys, and as you blow him, make uhmmmm type sound, the vibration of the uhmmm helps, again while playing with his nipple...

    Don't let him last long cause numb his dick, are you using condoms?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Skills360 View Post
    sometimes long sex can numb your dick... try this:

    Play with his nipples...

    blow him in the doggy style position and tell him story while you are blowing him of a time you fucked 2 guys, and as you blow him, make uhmmmm type sound, the vibration of the uhmmm helps, again while playing with his nipple...

    Don't let him last long cause numb his dick, are you using condoms?
    No, we don't use condoms. Ive licked his nipples while giving him a handjob with lube and he liked that but he didn't cum. Im gonna end up with carpal tunnel, lol. How do you tell a story while giving a blowjob?? Your mouth is full. I havent given him bjs while he was in doggy style, lol but that sounds challenging too, haha

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    Ha, ha, ha

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lovergirl View Post
    No, we don't use condoms. Ive licked his nipples while giving him a handjob with lube and he liked that but he didn't cum. Im gonna end up with carpal tunnel, lol. How do you tell a story while giving a blowjob?? Your mouth is full. I havent given him bjs while he was in doggy style, lol but that sounds challenging too, haha
    here is a sample: http://www.xvideos.com/video6285486/..._by_four_guys_

    i got a better idea to make sure you are doing it right... fuck my life, you going to make me work...

    I will let you practice on me a bit... the sacrifices i do in the name of friendship...you are lucky is christmas...
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    Try to find out some of his fantasies.
    Try watching porn together?
    Try something that makes him lose control mentally? (sensory overload in the sense that you try to distract him with a combi of hearing, feeling(touch), smelling (some kind of incense or whatever else that you think he would go for), tasting (chocolate? http://www.menprovement.com/natural-...siacs-for-men/ it doesn't even need to work, it's mainly about the idea that it will work probably anyway), and then view? Like. Look enticing, with clothes that show selective parts or whatever.. for him: sleep?

    Personally I would think of massages.
    Having longer sex isn;t going to change a lot. Sometimes bringing up emotional memories and stuff can do stuff though.
    When I was younger I used to love cybering, surprisingly it got guys horny as hell and made them get off.=> that telling a story thing should be blissful.

    Also keep holding sex off? => hang around him and tease him until he is so horny that he is almost coming ?
    You say you tried all 3 kinds of sex, but did you simply try jerking him off with your hands as well?

    ps: is it possible that the two of you simply have no chemistry?

    ps2: dunno, this is all that came up in my mind at the question.. hopefully others have more.

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    If it is a problem he has always had it's probably an issue that HE has to work on, not you.

    Personally I have noticed that it is necessary to let energy flow freely through your body. The issue can be both mentally and physically. For the mental part you can check out the "at home vibe" I posted about in ijjjji's "vibes vibes vibes" thread. Then you could have him try a position where you lie on your back and spread your legs like a "V", he holds your thighs and arches his back backwards like a rooster and tilts his chin slightly forward. (That should make him feel graceful, powerful, in charge and vulnerable all at the same time.) Then he starts pumping slow yet powerfully at a steady pace like a machine, and mainly use his core muscles. (That should make him be able to stimulate his penis good and long enough.) And while doing this he should look at your feminine and soft body moving back and forth like a wave caused by his masculine raw power. He should not think about trying to orgasm but instead think about how powerful yet graceful he feels and how soft you are and how much you love getting pounded.

    ...this turned out like a sex novel but that's what does it to me. I used to have problems cumming but now, using that technique, I can cum very quickly if I want. When slouching like a pig I have a very hard time cumming, I think it is because it prevents free flow of energy in my body.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skills360 View Post
    here is a sample: http://www.xvideos.com/video6285486/..._by_four_guys_

    i got a better idea to make sure you are doing it right... fuck my life, you going to make me work...

    I will let you practice on me a bit... the sacrifices i do in the name of friendship...you are lucky is christmas...
    Haven't had a chance to watch the video yet. I usually have kids or co-workers or someone around me so it is difficult to watch videos like that. Will see if I can get to it eventually. And har, har, har on the Christmas joke...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kit View Post
    Try to find out some of his fantasies.
    Try watching porn together?
    Yeah at this point I'm not very aware of his fantasies. I don't know how he feels about porn. he's always the one with the remote at the hotel and so far we have watched things like the Try Guys, Get Hard, food shows, the History Channel and the Republican debate... lolol


    Try something that makes him lose control mentally? (sensory overload in the sense that you try to distract him with a combi of hearing, feeling(touch), smelling (some kind of incense or whatever else that you think he would go for), tasting (chocolate? http://www.menprovement.com/natural-...siacs-for-men/ it doesn't even need to work, it's mainly about the idea that it will work probably anyway), and then view? Like. Look enticing, with clothes that show selective parts or whatever.. for him: sleep?
    Lol, I don't really see him as the type to appreciate me waltzing in with incense and chocolate, haha. I wear nice clothes and underthings but he is just like those are too many clothes, take them off, lol As far as sleep, he doesn't!! He says its rare for him to sleep for more than 4 hours a night. Like I said, he's super driven (which is why he makes a lot of $$).

    Personally I would think of massages.
    You know, I saw a question he had answered on OKCupid where he said that he would rather give a massage than receive one and he didn't know that he would like getting a massage (talking about from a woman). That could mean that he either just is really giving (he definitely is and he gives ME massages), or he doesn't like to be touched like that (my ex husband didn't like anyone massaging him either) or he could just be like my boss who says that massages from a woman aren't strong enough to really feel anything, and are basically worthless, lol. I can definitely try though and see how he reacts...

    Having longer sex isn;t going to change a lot.
    I think you are misunderstanding why the sex is long. It isn't long because we are going on and on trying to get him to cum. It's long because we are both having a blast and don't want it to stop, big difference. Even when we stop for a few minutes here and there to cuddle or get a drink of water or whatever, he's wanting right back in there, lol.

    Sometimes bringing up emotional memories and stuff can do stuff though.
    When I was younger I used to love cybering, surprisingly it got guys horny as hell and made them get off.=> that telling a story thing should be blissful.
    I don't know, I've always hated phone sex and I've never cybered with anyone. I'm more into the real thing. I don't really have any emotional memories or things to bring up with him at this point, though I suppose I could tell him stories. I've not told him much of anything about my sex life at this point and he hasn't asked. I'm not sure if he wants to know or not.

    Also keep holding sex off? => hang around him and tease him until he is so horny that he is almost coming ?
    I haven't really tried teasing much or holding off. I'm not sure how to do that when we meet in a hotel room for the obvious purpose of having sex. I will have to think on that. I do sometimes tease around a bit before a blowjob, kissing and licking other areas, etc, but I suppose I could drag it on longer. Maybe I need to mess with the teasing idea more. Hmmm....

    You say you tried all 3 kinds of sex, but did you simply try jerking him off with your hands as well?
    Yeah and as I told Skills above, I've even tried a handjob with lube while licking his nipples. He liked it, but it didn't make him cum and I'm pretty damn good at handjobs....

    ps: is it possible that the two of you simply have no chemistry?
    Not at all. We have FANTASTIC chemistry!! Its some of the best sex of my life!! He is obviously really enjoying himself and he has commented that no other woman has ever got him as close to cumming with a blowjob as I have (but he still didn't cum..damnit!) He's constantly telling me how amazing the sex with me feels, and he keeps wanting more so there is obviously some good chemistry.

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