That's interesting. I don't know that its something I could or would suggest but maybe there is something I can do to help him FEEL more relaxed. He's definitely a bit...tense? I suspect RELAXING is very hard for him to do.Personally I have noticed that it is necessary to let energy flow freely through your body. The issue can be both mentally and physically. For the mental part you can check out the "at home vibe" I posted about in ijjjji's "vibes vibes vibes" thread. Then you could have him try a position where you lie on your back and spread your legs like a "V", he holds your thighs and arches his back backwards like a rooster and tilts his chin slightly forward. (That should make him feel graceful, powerful, in charge and vulnerable all at the same time.) Then he starts pumping slow yet powerfully at a steady pace like a machine, and mainly use his core muscles. (That should make him be able to stimulate his penis good and long enough.) And while doing this he should look at your feminine and soft body moving back and forth like a wave caused by his masculine raw power. He should not think about trying to orgasm but instead think about how powerful yet graceful he feels and how soft you are and how much you love getting pounded.
...this turned out like a sex novel but that's what does it to me. I used to have problems cumming but now, using that technique, I can cum very quickly if I want. When slouching like a pig I have a very hard time cumming, I think it is because it prevents free flow of energy in my body.
It probably doesn't help that he is cheating on his wife and thinks I don't know about it. Like this last time he got some texts before we started having sex and he said it was his "sister" complaining about his mom, who was staying at his house because his grandfather died and there was a funeral the next morning. I am guessing that was actually his wife.
He wanted to see me though, even though he had a funeral the next day and I said sometimes sex can be comforting in a situation like that. He was like "I love the way you think!!!" lol
He is also constantly getting pounded with emails from all around the country- he doesn't read them all (obviously) but like this last time we had sex, he commented after that he had gotten something like 365 emails just while we were in bed.
I wonder if going somewhere else (hello, we need a vacation together!! lol) would help? He has made comments and hinted at wanting to take me with him sometime so maybe we will. He said with his companion miles he can switch the person he takes with him 3 times a year. I'm not sure why he was telling me all that unless he's thinking about it.