So, I have a few questions for Teevster on sexual game that have mystified me just a little (and other guys are free to chime in as well)
First of: Why does your sexual game not trigger their ASD? Sure, you can talk sexually to them after you've got to know them a lot better, but extreme sexual talk like your doing can be risky earlier on in the interaction or even down the line...you have to strike a balance so your on the right side and dont blow yourself out.
I just re-read your swedish 3some report and thats very strong sexually. If a woman is receptive to that from the get go (or even mild sexual gestures), that makes her a green..you don't have to do all the deep sexual prizing talk to have her ready for you. And anything on top of that (sexually) is just overkill..which in many cases should be blowing you out from the interaction instead of helping it along..
So how come your not triggering ASD? and how come the overkill on the sexual talk isn't blowing you out? In the UK anyway, if you talk too much about sex, she will just think you see her as a piece of meat and blow yourself out. Sure she loves sex, but she doesn't want to be seen low value for a women (credit: Kant). She could feel demeaned from the strong sex talk.
Sure, there are women who love the sex talk no matter what ie the super liberal ones, but most women aren't like that overtly and need major warming to be open to you.
Example from last week that happened to me:
I came out a club to do some street game and saw a girl sitting by the side under a bridge (its an old part of town, theres lots of clubs and a massive bridge here that goes over the street right next to the clubs) - it was clear she was looking to hook up from her body language - I chatted to her for a few minutes, invited her back to mine, made her aware I was sexually available (by licking my lips, this is something I do and it works to filter the DTF/sexual girls). Once I knew she was green, I amped up the sexuality by saying id lost my friend who was probably shagging some girl by now. I also said I told my friend about the good shagging spots in the area around the corner. (those arent the exact words but roughly what I was talking about)
At this point she got cold feet and her ASD kicked in. So whereas before she was receptive, the stronger sexual talk and increasing the sex talk fucked it up.
Sure, the way I came across sexually is different from yours, but it was calibrated in the conversation and genuine, and she liked my sexual approach (with the licking lips etc..I could see her reaction and getting turned on). So in my case, increasing the sex talk and being stronger sexually fucked the seduction up...ASD kicked in.
In your situations, why is this not happening for you? I would personally say you could improve your results if you reduced the sex talk..surely some women must be getting ASD???
And just to be clear, I love being sexual and talking about shagging when talking to women..im doing it naturally cos im sexual and filter for it immediately....women recognise this...but I believe there is a very fine line of how to go about the sexual talk..its not made clear from the way you're doing it.
EDIT: Ok I see why your approach might not work for me...because im generally showing sexual intent directly from the get go. The eye contact is there, the licking lips/body language sexual innuendos are there + lots of touching and verbal sexual lines (eg I tell her she's a trouble maker and needs a good spanking) - this normally lets women know im a lover, so then going into hardcore sex talk would be overkill and blow me out...
Whereas in your approach, because your coming in so indirectly and "under the radar" you can seep the sex talk in without hitting on her...
The difference here is im hitting on her from the get go...
I suppose your approach would work well for me in a situation where im maybe sitting down somewhere and a group of women/woman sit nearby..but tbh I think itd be incongruent for me to go indirect on any level..im a pretty direct guy