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I think wanting a girlfriend is weakness to begin with.
I honestly think I am not being cynical. I love having great girlfriends, but I really do not need one.
What I would recommend is two things, both of which are cliche.
1). Have an ideal "you" in mind and work towards it. Think big, and have big goals towards which you are working for. Big not necessarily in the "glitter" sense, but in the sense of difficulty and scale. Also, your idea of ideal "you" can evolve with time, as new data comes in. Do not be dogmatic.
2). While you are on this trajectory, try to act more and more authentically. You cannot ever have the hope of having great girls in your life, if you are not expressing yourself freely around them. Note however that authentic does not mean being your old loser self, if thats where you started. Authentic means you are trying to be your best self, but your goal is not gaming HER.
A great chick is one who sticks by your side as long as you are gaming yourself. A loser chick is one that forces you to game her and pump her emotions, at high cost for everyone involved.
Figure out your values, aim towards your ideal you, and within those parameters freely express yourself instead of trying to micromanage/game her. Thats what is working for me at the moment. The chicks that you end up with when you do these things are usually custom-made for you by the good Lord himself.
Note that a simple litmus test of whether a chick is good for you is whether you are having a good time with her when you are not doing conscious game on her, when you are around her. A generic cunt will repeatedly drive you towards manipulating her, even if you try to avoid it. Assuming you have your own life dialed to a reasonable degree.
Don't have time, so this was probably too abstract for most people, but hopefully it wasn't entirely useless.