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IJ, alright I am genuinely not trying to be an asshole here, but I don’t get it. Is there a step in between that you are not talking about? Like that you are somehow super attractive in the environment you are in BEFORE you start being bashful?
I would like to learn a little about this as I would say it is one of the things I don’t have in my toolbox. I am kind of a slow learner, I am still chewing on Bachaas’s bubble and fractionation stuff, so let me explain where the roadblock to even getting started on your idea is.
If a super attractive woman is in my vicinity and I let myself be bashful = absolutely NOTHING would ever happen. Hot girls constantly have someone vying for their attention. They don’t need look around and be aware of their surroundings and notice this old guy being coy. If she tried her attention would immediately be drawn away by something else.
At a coffee shop yesterday a friend and I were keeping a discreet eye on this hot woman ordering her coffee. He just went through a break up and he is hot for this chick. As she walks by to leave I pull her attention to me and I order her to sit down. She keeps looking from me to the door. Everytime she looks back at me I direct her to the chair with my eyes. She finally complies. I let him work his charms on her from there with minimal convo from me but when I see he is going to let her go without a close I order them to exchange numbers. She kindly refuses but after hugs and she leaves she comes back in and gives him her number and thanks me.
Alright, point is that if I had tried to be shy she would have left without a single second of interaction. I get that if you can get her chasing and then be demure and kind of decline giving her the validation of saying oh hell yes, she is likely to really start chasing. I think that is a great long term relationship strategy but how to get her to start the convo with you being shy unless the world just happens to drop her in front of you bored, unoccupied, and attracted to you.
I admit I am largely extroverted so maybe I just can’t see the nuance to this. Can you help me out?