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    Did I answer wrong?

    I use the blitzing strategy of the player guide and I'm curious what you had answered or I if you guys had answered her at all :
    Me: hey I felt I should say hello to you? Good feeling? If yes send me a message.
    Her : I don't know It depends on how often you have the feeling
    Me :wow your are going in fast. We'll most of the time when I see a girl that makes me curious.
    She : how often happens that? Every day?
    Me: noo there aren't so much interesting girls.
    Me : well, flirting is a bit like finding the needle in the haystack. I think you can relate to that aren't you?

    I think she is testing me by framing me like a player or something like that. My first intentions to the initial replay were: what the fuck she wants from me. I just want to flirt and she this is annoying shit.
    I thought about writing : yes 2-3 times a week it depends on how many hot girls u see here.

    To be honest I don't like her answers even if she put a smile behind every answer. I think that's not cool. Am I being to hard here? Another thing is that I was worried that I may was blitzing a friend of her because the group I'm in is a local group.

    However, How would you react? What you think about my answer and things I wrote? What would be best practice?

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    I'm novice here so can't give any advice. However, I think that's a weak opener, you give out no strong frame here for her to follow. The frame I read is: it depends on whether she has a good feeling about you or not, then she's playing doubt game with you, and you have to qualify yourself to her like her little bro, uphill battle I would say, also the convo isn't interesting and leads to nowhere...

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    Hey SoFasttt, the opener is from the Online Section of the Player Guide.
    http://www.pua-zone.com/showthread.p...Game-Specifics

    As I read it the standard would be to not answer at all and screen her out because she is trying to shit test me and making me qualify. But I'm shure there is a conversational workaround which can turn around the situation.

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    Yes it's the wrong answer:
    Me: hey I felt I should say hello to you? Good feeling? If yes send me a message.
    Her : I don't know It depends on how often you have the feeling

    I read from this "You probably send that to all the girls." or "You are just saying that."

    You're opener isn't bad, especially if you get a response from this girl but...
    Me :wow your are going in fast. We'll most of the time when I see a girl that makes me curious.

    Which can be read as, "Wow you really like me a lot." While she make you a little bit, it's not what she communicated in her last message so this response is uncalibrated. Which in turn is why she says this:
    She : how often happens that? Every day?

    Which I read is her saying again, "Okay so you say this to all the girls. Answer the question." And
    Me: noo there aren't so much interesting girls.
    Me : well, flirting is a bit like finding the needle in the haystack. I think you can relate to that aren't you?

    Here you are just back peddling. "No you are special, blah blah." Which likely she is like, "You don't even know me, quit with saying bullshit."
    I think she is testing me by framing me like a player or something like that. My first intentions to the initial replay were: what the fuck she wants from me. I just want to flirt and she this is annoying shit.

    Yes she was testing you being a player and that frame.

    I would have said something like, "Well yeah maybe I could get a good feeling around you a lot." I would just flirt with her some more, let her know that I understand what she is saying "You must say that to all the girls." and then you respond with subcommunication that reads, "Yep I'm a player, but doesn't it feel so good."

    Keep asking these questions man, love it when a guy is putting in work and asking questions.
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    Dont continue the same 'line' in the conversation. Start new 'lines' whenever you get the chance. Im sure people can give you examples, Im in a hurry.
    Also, dont analyze her answers. The only thing that matters is that she did in fact answer.
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    Yeah an example of changing the line would be cool ..


    Yes she was testing you being a player and that frame.

    I would have said something like, "Well yeah maybe I could get a good feeling around you a lot." I would just flirt with her some more, let her know that I understand what she is saying "You must say that to all the girls." and then you respond with subcommunication that reads, "Yep I'm a player, but doesn't it feel so good."
    I know that she tested me " Yep I'm a player, but doesn't it feel so good." Is this a typo btw ?? does it mean "Yep I'm a player, but it doenst feel so good"?

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    Its simple really, as in:
    girl: so you have a car?
    ij: wow girls who are into cars are so cute! Do you have a lot of siblings?
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    Quote Originally Posted by ijjjji View Post
    Its simple really, as in:
    girl: so you have a car?
    ij: wow girls who are into cars are so cute! Do you have a lot of siblings?
    Is this a technique for her to quickly become familiar with you? (quickly covering as many subjects as possible I suppose?). Because I think we have an interesting topic here to dwell in and to make easy rapport (girl into cars), why change it?

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    This post has been ranked 10.00 out of 10 with 2 votes.

    Quote Originally Posted by SoFasttt View Post
    Is this a technique for her to quickly become familiar with you? (quickly covering as many subjects as possible I suppose?). Because I think we have an interesting topic here to dwell in and to make easy rapport (girl into cars), why change it?
    It's how normal people talk and interact with each other. It is natural for friends to go from thread to thread. This is just cutting conversation threads and adding new threads. Mystery covers this in his old material, but it helps someone game quick rapport with you.

    it also has the added effect of being hypnotic in natural. If you make one person's mind go from one topic to another and then yet another, doing all that work will usually put them into an elevated state of consciousness.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Supernova View Post
    it also has the added effect of being hypnotic in natural. If you make one person's mind go from one topic to another and then yet another, doing all that work will usually put them into an elevated state of consciousness.
    This. Works for any kind of game.

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