So, this is just a continuation of a thread started a few years ago here:
If you have no idea what im talking about, better to skip this thread. This is a nightclub game situation, and fairly common in Europe.
Essentially, you'll be making solid eye contact with a girl (multiple times) and she'll be looking at you strongly, then nervously look down and away, but still turning to look at you again..maybe 6-7+ times, and she'll hold the eye contact and get charged sexually looking at you, and you'll assume for all intents and purposes its fuckin ON, only for her to go completely cold on the approach. And no, this isnt unavailable women, this is women who are on the market and women who are "at a distance" away from you, so you cant approach them right away from a single look either.
Example could be: making eye contact with a girl at the other side of the bar (assuming a 2 sided bar where you can see people opposite you). The eye contact goes on for a while as you both look to be served at the bar. She looks away nervously but looks back at you many times, she might have a sly smile or you feel her energy getting charged from the eye contact. You also feel the sexual tension building and you know its fuckin ON. You see her again somewhere else later and the eye contact and tension ensues...she keeps looking at you intensely and the magnetism and vibe is ON. You then approach but then she goes completely cold or seems to fob you off strongly. This then makes a guy confused because they thought she was totally into them.
Here's some new understandings on this which I think might be useful, and will help explain why they go cold:
1. She's in a different headspace and not ready to come out of it yet.
The women is enjoying the intense eye contact between you two. She is feeling empowered and stronger as a woman because of it and is feeling your strength because you are able to hold the eye contact and create high levels of sexual tension. So, to take her out of that headspace before she is ready will have her going cold. When you approached her, you took her out of that headspace suddenly before she was ready to accept your approach. So, a better idea is to keep doing your thing and occasionally look at her to maintain the tension, until you get a better sense that she is ready to be approached.
Also, a good idea is to back up your eye contact with a secondary or third signal - for example, licking lips, scratching your arm, playing with your hair. And see how she responds to that. Does she just keep staring or does she reinforce things? If she is just staring she is in a neurotic trance of sorts that is enjoying the eye contact without necessarily being ready for you.
Getting multiple signals from the girl will give you more information to work with. For example, licking your lips at a girl generally gets them to lick their lips back..
Its these subtle communications and communicating with them subtley that allows them to feel more comfortable with your interest in them too before they're ready to be approached..otherwise they can go cold.
2. Concentrate on non-verbals for the approach.
Because she's making intense eye contact at you doesnt mean she will respond immediately to conversation. By the staring, she is giving a primordial instinctive response that she is enjoying, so its better to focus on the non-verbals to compliment those feelings she is already enjoying.
Also, the intense eye contact is making her feel empowered from your display of strength (by holding the eye contact and building the tension), so any approach you do should compliment this primordial display, which comes from the non verbals. You cannot easily display primordial activity through conversation of itself..its a non verbal thing. Verbals is a neocortex brain activator whereas eye contact and non verbals are limbic brain activators.
This is exactly why guys can be talking to chicks, having everything seem to be going perfectly, only for her to makeout and go home with a random guy on the dancefloor..because non-verbals is generally king.
If you go in with verbals, what you'll find is she gives another primordial display to you (ie she goes cold on the approach). She was expecting you to operate primordially by non verbals but you misinterpreted her completely and went in with verbals which doesnt work in this situation.
To open non verbally - you could for example take her arm physically or go for the makeout right away. This is a display of primordial activity. A mistake I made last night was going to sit down next to a girl that was staring at me big time..because that takes her out of her headspace completely and into a conversation mode which is not what she wants..The women feels empowered by being in a intense eye contact trance if that's the type she is.
Not all women will want to go into these huge eye contact trances with you obviously so thats not the type im talking about, so this is just a small subgroup of women. But the ones that do are enjoying the eye contact and its making them feel empowered..they like strong men who can display high levels of primordial strength.
3. Don't assume just because she is holding intense eye contact and keeps looking at you, that she's more interested in you than a girl that only makes fleeting eye contact.
We might think that just because the girl is staring at us and holding the eye contact, that somehow its a slam dunk case and that she is extremely into you, or will be an easier deal to close, but that's not necessarily the case at all. A woman who can make extremely strong eye contact tends to be a stronger woman, and you generally have to be a stronger man to make it work. A woman staring at you needs to be played carefully because she is in a certain sort of trance.
Though its true to say that you're definitely getting validated and they do find you highly attractive.
So, those are just new thoughts on that above thread.