Feel like chiming in because I love over 40 women, and here in Brazil they're smoking hot. Plus I ALWAYS have one in my rotation (PM me if you feel curious and I'll send you some pics of my current 42yo FB).
Also Skills is right about BD. His main stuff is focused on older guys>>>young chicks, so it does not apply to your case.
Some quick tips:
1) If you've paid for the first date, split the bill on the second...she won't mind;
1) You met her via social, so it's a plus because you've already passed some major tests. She is also seeking you, which is not common on women from that age group (IMO means she is heavily interested). e.g. my FB almost never texts me first, and she blatantly said she feels it's the man who must do it. My former 45yo FB was exactly the same BTW.
2) Now do as the guys say: set up optimal logistics to get her back to her place. If she suggests anything remotely vague about doing it (or a bar close to it) say yes and go! But be prepared for a last minute balk and date 03 (very common with them);
3) Home meal or drinks, does not matter, when you isolate just talk and kino (touch her hair, back and neck, massage her feet, etc...just make her feel confortable);
4) Proceed to the sexual stuff...the trick to me is you have to be extra patient, but not too much. There will be shit tests and there will be a (minor) chance at LMR. Don't give in and keep pushing. Don't back down on the light resistance stuff...once you hit that stage is not the time to be a gentleman, believe me... be very dominant (pick her up and throw her on the table/floor/sofa, be on top, try to rip her brah and panties...matures love that shit).
5) She knows you're both there to fuck, and she's not seeking a provider in you....be nice after it and send her a quick text next morning asking if she slept well, etc...set a day 2 ASAP, fuck her again. Congratulations on your new FB!;
6) to me that's one big plus with older women...once you get past their sky high ASD, they are really easy to be in a relationship with...very low maintenance, very nice convos and awesome in the sack
Thanks man! Great tips!
One thing I see as a potential problem is the dominance... how do I know if her resistance is real vs. "token resistance"?
Also, I really like the throw her on the floor idea but... do you LITERALLY mean THROW her on the FLOOR? Or are you making a metaphor?
I'm just afraid she'll get scared of me or feel assaulted or something. :/
Why did my post get downvoted?
Lol, downvoting ghosts! Ahhhhhhhh!
At that stage the main problem is her trust in you. If she decided she trusts you, you're clear to do anything.
Seriously though, just do what you want and look for her reaction. If she does nothing, proceed. If she complains, take a step back and reengage later. My bet is she will probably take the lead, put your cock out and suck you to heaven (god, I love older women).
Beta isn't something you do, it is something you are.
Being polite and civili is alpha.
Being polite and civili is beta.
Asking her out is alpha.
Asking her out is beta.
Is is not what you do. It is not how you do it.
> It is who you are.
Once you understand this you will stop asking questions about what to do and how to do it. You will start asking the right question: How am I going to be the guy who can do what I really want to do?
It makes me a little sad to see people who claim to be "pickup artists" shopping for a "nice bed that women will like".
I am dipping in for another "1":
"You are an absolute idiot." (To the person that 1'ed me.)
If you get a woman back home, she will turn around 1 in 45 (I think these are my actual numbers) because you have a huge mess of a room and a shitty bed that hasn't been washed, ever. Most of the time she will frolic on to dic. It has been decided.
She will NEVER fuck you if she was previously unsure because you have a nice bed. It has been decided.
I would rather get another 1 than keep quiet about this, but the idea of even talking about this is an invitation to amateur hour.
A bed will not get you laid.
A cool jacket will not get you laid.
A line that makes people laugh will not get you laid.
Knowing the whole contents of SedFast by heart will not get you laid.
Understanding what will not get you laid is immensely helpful.
It makes you work against what actually gets you laid. And it is something that is achievable through work.