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    Male hotness is more of a step function, than a gradually rising curve

    By nature's design, a smaller % among males are 'selected' for procreating. You could say that males are nature's instrument for speeding up 'Selection of the Fittest'. So as males compete to get into 'the select few', the ones that fall short default to a procreational value of zero ("Not worthy"), in the eyes of the beholder. This accounts for why PU can be a very 'polar' experience.. how it can seem so incredibly easy at times, while seeming impossible at other times.. and also how someone find it a total struggle, while others find it hard to even grasp the idea of having to 'work' to get a girl....

    Im writing this as an encouragement to those who feel it is impossibly hard. Because that is how it feels, right up until you reach the area of becoming 'selected'.. IOW, you may feel you are very far away from making it, while in fact you could be very close.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heaviside_step_function
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    I agree with the basic concept, but not with the introduction of evolutionary psychology to explain it. I mean, if guys focused on mastery of skills instead of outcome it would make more sense. Too many dudes Google pickup one day, or how to meet girls, read a couple forums and go out trying to get laid. Instead, they should focus on learning whatever they lack. Like basketball, yeah you gotta get on the court and play, but you also have to do drills to focus on mastering dribbling, passing etc. It isn't quite as "natural," but hell it makes sense to me. Learning to get laid virtually at will is a step function, but learning each individual skill is in a gradual curve as a derivative thereof.

    I once turned a kegger into an algebraic equation, graphs make me geek out lol

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    THX for the motivation!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ijjjji View Post
    By nature's design, a smaller % among males are 'selected' for procreating. You could say that males are nature's instrument for speeding up 'Selection of the Fittest'. So as males compete to get into 'the select few', the ones that fall short default to a procreational value of zero ("Not worthy"), in the eyes of the beholder. This accounts for why PU can be a very 'polar' experience.. how it can seem so incredibly easy at times, while seeming impossible at other times.. and also how someone find it a total struggle, while others find it hard to even grasp the idea of having to 'work' to get a girl....

    Im writing this as an encouragement to those who feel it is impossibly hard. Because that is how it feels, right up until you reach the area of becoming 'selected'.. IOW, you may feel you are very far away from making it, while in fact you could be very close.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heaviside_step_function
    You are not supposed to be the world's best guy, you are supposed to be the best guy (or more available, in a bad situation, which there is a lot of) available at the point of entry.

    I have lived this, being 42. I've been a "nerd" and starting in the pickup community I was extremely { all the things that are what hardcases are }.

    You can step up. It can be something simple, like shaving a beard, changing a jacket, learning to relax (through TRE or similar). I know this from experience, being a "nerd" to being (to be honest "a different kind of nerd") "a little bit sexy".

    It can totally change your world, and you will have a hard time remembering how it was being you now. It can happen in 45 minutes.

    ijjjjji is right, it is for "the few", but it is easier now than ever, as hordes of men are just giving up. There isn't really any competition. It is easier than ever to get over threshold.

    Do the work, and more importantly: Know what the work is. If is still eludes you, ask someone.

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    And related, this song describes it for me:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L46KstO-V1I

    Come alive [...] don't go. Don't leave before you know. Don't get it wrong just when you could've got it right.

    People who get into pickup start attaching good things to good outcomes. "I did a good approach". "Time to go home."

    You are just priming girls for people who understand how the rest of the game is played, making it easier for the players. You have to benefit from this work yourself.

    Become one.

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    This post has been ranked 5.50 out of 10 with 2 votes.

    Quote Originally Posted by ijjjji View Post
    . IOW, you may feel you are very far away from making it, while in fact you could be very close.
    Yup this is what it's all about. Which is why in my opinion one of the fundamentally most important aspects of life is how you think about things.

    Most situations are different, ESPECIALLY when there is a human element, so doing something that worked in one situation may be harmful in another situation. You have to actually USE YOUR BRAIN.

    Another reason why I agree evo psych is interesting but most likely bullshit. We are humans studying humans, not humans studying a static force of nature like electromagnetism...

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    Thanks for replies!
    Yea Im not so big on evo psych (or even psych at all) myself either. Cant be proven either way, so who knows. I just wanted to offer a simple yet possible reason.
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