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A big closed group usually means you need to find 1 person to give you an in, the others to accept you and then to do your thing later on by making contact with the person you want..
Originally Posted by SoFasttt
it's harder, sure. But often it's all about attention. You cant bulldoze in and catch all of their attention at once( well you can but thats even more hard), you have to ease into their consciousness like you are part of the group experience / of their style..
Most people are used to some kind of variety in their group. e.g. an old friend of someone that tags on, a little/older brother/sister, a 'new' person that seems interesting. And then usually people are drinking so less judgy..
meaning you just need to claim that new person spot, before trying to connect fully... imo
dunno, there used to be this one bar/club I had to do that every time. Fridaynight i always went solo to party...
its tough, but doable (mainly about reading people, not about changing them)
oh the easiest is usually to just say hi ag bathroom queus and get to know each other, talk some, let the person invite you when you tell them for once you are alone or smth