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So, people keep saying that dancefloor is about non verbals and its easy to physically escalate on a chick you've just met but from a UK point of view, thats chronic bullshit.
American clubs are very different from UK ones and a few things need clarifying here about UK game. American guys feel free to chime in though:
First of all, you dont know who's receptive to being escalated on non verbally on the dancefloor from the get go, so there is a huge inherent risk with non verbal dancefloor game. Different women react in different ways, and there's no set rule of who will be receptive to dancing with you and who wont. A lot of women simply arent receptive to you dancing with them on the dancefloor from the get go, and youll get a major fob off in the UK if you try. Obviously there are some who are receptive, but you cant tell that off the bat.
Im not talking about dancing in her circle..im talking about actually dancing with her directly.
So, in that case you'll need to talk to her properly first to get her warmed up before trying any physical dance moves. This is something I dont see emphasised that much anywhere - non verbals on the dancefloor a lot of the time do not work here in the UK...a woman expects a conversation.
It can work at "the end/middle" of an interaction ie when youve already got to know her, so youve gone on the dancefloor and then you can do some physical moves, but for opening an interaction with a new woman, this is majorly majorly high risk. Even if you dance in their group for a while, its still high risk and doesnt always work...they might just think your some dancing monkey in their group and that will lower your value quickly.
Even if theyre staring at you big time and giving you a lot of green lights. It doesnt mean they want to dance with you. So, the dominant strategy here is to go in with conversation instead ie verbals
Second, in the UK dancing is what drunken idiots and people who are having a merry time do. Yes, there are horny women on the dancefloor looking to meet people, but they are on the dancefloor to talk to people, not to get dancing with some guy, even if they find him highly attractive. So, its very high risk to dance with a girl or even dance in her group without engaging very strongly verbally.
So, this comes to the topic of dancefloor verbals and how to go about it.
IMHO, from experience you should treat the dancefloor just like any other part of the club...so long as it isnt too crazy on there and the chicks arent going mad
Also, in the UK anyway, because its a Western country women here feel heavily entitled by default, so a normal type of conversation isnt gonna cut it. You need to have the type of conversation that prizes you right away and sets the frame that you're a sexual threat.
Anybody got anything to add here? Again, dancefloor non verbals is a risky business...theres absolutely no sure fire way to know how receptive a chick is until you actually talk to her and get to know her better (and even then, there's no surefire way to say she will dance with you, many of them still wont....it seems like a high risk thing for women. Also many of them dont know how to dance with men or dont care about the dancing..they are there for conversation even if they are on the dancefloor)...so its better to go in with verbals on the dancefloor and forget the dancing altogether.
A lot of women IMO also dance because they have no clue what theyre doing. They are in a nightclub, so its "expected" for them to dance, even if they have no idea why theyre actually doing it...kinda sounds a bit funny lol lol, but thats the reality..people have no clue why theyre doing certain things
EDIT: For the idiot that voted this post 1, im talking about UK game here, if you want to see what I mean get your ass over here...