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    Question How do I answer the question "What happened to your previous gf?"

    During first dates, I've been utilizing Blackdragon's patented conversation-starter, "When was your last really big relationship?" It's a great question as it gets them talking about topics that transition pretty naturally into sex. However, it has a downside that I don't quite know how to handle. Once they're done telling their story, they'll inevitably ask "How about you, when was your last gf? What happened?"

    The truthful answer is, of course, "I'm still with her, we just have an open relationship." But that's obviously not going to go over well. How do I handle this question? It seems especially difficult if I'm going after the girl just as an FB, because then if I just make up a fake answer, it sends the signals that I'm looking for something serious right off the bat.

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    You'd be surprised how well could it go over if you are just up front about it.

    However the best answer to that question is 'I broke up with my gf recently, and I am not actively looking for anything serious right now, I mean I would be open to it if I REALLY liked the girl.'

    You are communicating 2 things here: Preselection and If you hook up with her the possibility for it to evolve into something more.

    That's question is usually an IOI but you can't answer YES or you disqualify yourself as in being taken and you can't say NO because she will be thinking; Why doesn't he have a girlfriend? Maybe he is not as great as I thought he was if no other girl want's him.

    Also you don't HAVE frame it as an open relationship if you have to say something it's quite normal to say friends with benefits.

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    Girl: "So what happened to your last GF?"


    Sly: "She's taking a nap in the desert. Want some dessert? I hear the cheesecake here is to die for." (Smile at her)


    But seriously. On a first date and you're talking about that kinda shit. Fuck that. It's none of her business yet. Divert convo. Tell her how sexy she looks in that dress.

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    This is easy.

    Opt1: make a quick comment about your last failed monogamy relationship, best if it shows some emotion and/or vulnerability, then brush it off and keep focusing on her.

    Opt2: quick funny distraction reply (like when she asks how many girl you date or sleep with) then diverse back to her story.

    BTW you are recruiting her as FB only, show that frame, don't let her expect anything serious.

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    I agree with Sly...this somehow works for BD but it does not appear to be working for you, so drop it.

    More evidence that trying to directly replicate what others do, or taking advice from "gurus", can easily backfire.

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    Quote Originally Posted by slyone View Post
    Girl: "So what happened to your last GF?"


    Sly: "She's taking a nap in the desert. Want some dessert? I hear the cheesecake here is to die for." (Smile at her)


    But seriously. On a first date and you're talking about that kinda shit. Fuck that. It's none of her business yet. Divert convo. Tell her how sexy she looks in that dress.
    LOL, I was thinking "napping with the fishes."
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    How about instead of 'last really long relationship' (talk about baggage by the way for some people) ... just say how has the dating scene been going/ recent dates. That's fine for you as well, you presumably have recent dates.

    There's more than a few ways to transition into sex talk, if you feel the need.

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    Last time girl asked me. I said she went back to her country.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Habanero View Post
    During first dates, I've been utilizing Blackdragon's patented conversation-starter, "When was your last really big relationship?" It's a great question as it gets them talking about topics that transition pretty naturally into sex. However, it has a downside that I don't quite know how to handle. Once they're done telling their story, they'll inevitably ask "How about you, when was your last gf? What happened?"

    The truthful answer is, of course, "I'm still with her, we just have an open relationship." But that's obviously not going to go over well. How do I handle this question? It seems especially difficult if I'm going after the girl just as an FB, because then if I just make up a fake answer, it sends the signals that I'm looking for something serious right off the bat.
    If it's during the attraction stage - not the trust building stage

    Reply "Oh you would ask that"
    Make her question about you, some insinuation about her.

    If it's during the "I like you, you're cool, you're sex, let me find out more about you stage"

    Again, use her imagination to your advantage, and the fact that this is a common question to your advantage.

    "You know when something's right, it's right. Can't put it into words"
    "You know when you've been with someone for a while, and then you kinda wake up and feel like there's something different about the two of you?"
    "You can't really describe it, but you FEEL IT"
    "I felt like this thing was tearing us both apart. It was only a matter of time, before one of us said something, did something.
    "Lord knows I was tempted. I wouldn't be surprised if she was as well"
    "Like we were both moving in different directions"
    "We cried."
    "We're still friends...maybe friendly is a better word - it's so easy to hate someone that you used to love, but I try not to..."
    "I think she met someone, and I'm happy for her"

    And basically take her on that Soap Opera/Girl Talk journey.
    Shows that you can have a long term relationship
    Shows that aside from your general bravado/machismo, you can think about a relationship in "female" terms.
    Shows that you don't hate women.

    That should satisfy most chicks because it's essentially the type of non-answer they give when they break up with a guy (LOL)

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    Quote Originally Posted by SoFasttt View Post
    This is easy.

    Opt1: make a quick comment about your last failed monogamy relationship, best if it shows some emotion and/or vulnerability, then brush it off and keep focusing on her.

    Opt2: quick funny distraction reply (like when she asks how many girl you date or sleep with) then diverse back to her story.

    BTW you are recruiting her as FB only, show that frame, don't let her expect anything serious.
    You're just recruiting for an FB, such a serious question.

    A better question, "Why are you single?" This usually leads to them telling about the long relationship. When it comes back to you just say, "I have an insatiable desire for women." Or say it for the current predicament. It's such a stupid response then you can change topics right after.
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