My girl of 2.5 years is coming by tomorrow and my gut says it is for a breakup talk. I would like to salvage the relationship if possible.
We have been great together up to this point. Just in the past couple months since she started taking a high hormone birth control things have gotten a little rocky. Ironically she is supposed to get off it tomorrow. The recent rockiness wasn't so concerning because the sex has not dropped off at all. It's actually gotten better.
I've fought hard against betaisation all along, and I may have developed an attainability issue. We had a fight a few days ago and she told me she does not feel safe and secure lately and she wants me to be more of a 'knight in shining armor' for her. Says she sometimes cries by herself because she is scared of losing me. It's strange that she would call me out because if you ask me, I give more freely than I should, and she has been slowly starting to take me for granted in the past couple months. I have been hoping things would go back to normal once she switch bcp's again.
After I comforted her and she calmed down I told her how I was feeling lately and she became hysterical. Looking back I regret taking the discussion there. Definitely didn't give her the safe secure feeling she needed. Poor timing for sure.
So after that incident, she goes MIA for a few days and finally sends a message today "she would like to talk.." and was very businesslike in arranging the meet
I feel like I hurt her deeply and she is too proud to accept an olive branch now. I want to talk her down from the ledge, but I'm afraid that's coming from the AFC side of my brain. What do you think? She seems to be distancing herself so would I be better off doing the same?